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I have compiled this list of books in good faith with the hope that they will be of use to you. I would suggest you go online before purchasing any of the titles and read some reviews of those you are interested in to help you make a more informed choice.

If you have any books that you would like added here, please drop me an email with 'website reading list' in the subject area, and I will consider them for the next update.

Self Development

Blanchard, K., and Shula, D., (2002) The Little Book of Coaching, Harper Collins Business

Bradshaw, J., (1997), Homecoming, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child, Piatkus / Bantam Books

Bradshaw, J., (2006), Healing the Shame That Binds You, Health Communications

Chapman, G., (2004), The Other Side of Love - Dealing with Anger, Moody Publishers

Clegg, B., (2000), Instant Stress Management, Kogan Page Publishers

Cloud, H., and Townsend, J., (1992), Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, Zondervan

De Board, R., (1998), Counselling for Toads, Routledge

Dickson, A., (1982), A Woman in Your Own Right: Assertiveness and You, Quartet Books

Forward, S., (1998), Emotional Blackmail, Harper Paperbacks

Forward, S., (2002), Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life, Bantam Publishers

Hay, L, L., (2000), You Can Heal Your Life, Hay House Publishers

Jeffers, S., (2005), End the Struggle and Dance with Life, Vermillion Publishers

Jeffers, S., (2007), Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Vermillion Publishers

Johnson, S, D., (2002) Who Moved My Cheese?, Vermillion

Krystal, P., (1991), Cutting the Ties That Bind, Sawbridge

Leaf, C., (2008), Who Switched Off My Brain?, Switch on Your Brain Publishers

Leman, K., (2007), What Your Childhood Memories Say About You, Tyndale House Publishers

Lindenfield, G., (2000), Managing Anger, Thorsons Publishing

Lindenfield, G., (2001) Assert Yourself: Simple Steps to Getting What You Want, Thorsons Publishing

Meyer, J., (2002), Battlefield of the Mind, Faith Words Publications

Meyer, J., (2006), Managing Your Emotions, Faith Words Publications

Miller. A., (1995), The Drama of Being a Child, The Search for the True Self, Virago Press

Peters, S., (2012), The Chimp Paradox, Vermillion

Simon, G. K. (2010), In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People, Parkhurst Brothers Publishers Inc

Vanzant, I, (1999), Don't Give It Away, Simon and Schuster Publications

Vanzant, I, (1999), In The Meantime, Simon and Schuster Publications

Vanzant, I, (2011), Peace From Broken Pieces; How to Get Through What You're Going Through, Hay House

Whitfield, C. L., (1991), Healing the Child Within, Health Communications

Williams, M, Teasdale, J., Segal, Z., & Kabat-Zin, J., (2007), The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness, Guilford Press

Self Help Modules on Anxiety, Depression, Panick attacks and Assertiveness: website

Audiobooks/ Lectures:

Dyer, W. W., (2002), The Wayne Dyer CD Collection, Hay House Audio

Dyer, W, W., (2010), Change your Thoughts and Change Your Life, Hay House Publishers

Hay, L. L., (2004), I Can Do It - How to Use Affirmations To Change Your Life, Hay House Audio

Hay, L. L., Jeffers, S., Northrup, C., and Myss, C., (1997), The Empowering Women Gift Collection (4 CD Set), Hay House Audio

Hay, L. L., (2006)You Can Heal Your Life Study Course (2 cd workshop), Hay House Audio Please note this is different from the 4 cd set of Louise reading her book of the same name.

Hay, L. L., (2004) 101 Power Thoughts, Hay House Audio

Hay, L. L., (2004) Overcoming Fears, Hay House Audio


Bancroft, L., (2003), Why Does He Do That? Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Berkley Publishing Group

Bernstein, A. J., (2002), Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, McGraw Hill

Chapman, G., (2004), The Five Love Languages for Singles, Moody Publishers

Chapman, G., (1994), The Five Love Languages for Married Couples, Moody Publishers

Chapman, G., (2005), The Marriage You've Always Wanted, Moody Publishers

Chapman, G., (2006), The Five Love Languages - MENS EDITION, Moody Publishers

Chapman, G., (2004), The Other Side of Love - Dealing with Anger, Moody Publishers

Chapman, G., (2008), Desperate Marriages, Moody Publishers

Cloud, H. & Townsend, J., (1996), Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't, Zondervan, ISBN 978-0310210849

Cloud, H., (1997), Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future, Zondervan, ISBN 978-0310214632

Cloud, H., and Townsend, J., (2002), Boundaries in Marriage, Zondervan

Harley, W, F., (2008), His Needs, Her Needs - Buliding an Affair-Proof Marriage, Monarch Books

Hendrix, H., (2005), Getting the Love You Want, Pocket Books

Hendrix, H., (2005), Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide, Pocket Books

Mellody, P., (1990), Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Co dependence, HarperSanFrancisco, ISBN 978-0062505903

Mellody, P., (2002), Facing Co dependence: What Is It, Where Does It Come From, How It Sabotages Our Lives, HarperCollins, ISBN 978-0062505897

Pearl, E., (2004), The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself, Hay House Inc, ISBN 978-1401902100

Whitfield, C. I., (1993), Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self, Health Communications, ISBN 978-1558742598

Bereavement: Children's Books

Heegard, M. E., (1991) When Someone Very Special Dies: Chilren Can Learn to Cope With Grief, Woodland Press

Rosen, M., (2011) Michael Rosen's Sad Book, Walkers

Stickney, D., (2004) Waterbugs and Dragonflies, The Pilgrim Press

Bereavement: Books for Adults:

Bollinger, T. M., (2006) Cancer: Step Outside The Box, (5th Ed), Infinity 510 Squared Partners

Kubler-Ross. E., (1997) Death: The Final Stage of Growth, Simon and Schuster

Kubler-Ross, E., (1998) The Wheel Of Life, Bantam

Kubler-Ross. E., and Kessler, D., (2001) Life Lessons: How Our Mortality Can Teach Us About Life,, Simon and Schuster

Kubler-Ross. E., and Kessler, D., (2005) On Grief and Grieving, Simon and Schuster

Kubler-Ross. E.,(2008) On Death and Dying What The Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families,, Simon and Schuster

Additional Bereavement Resources

Rape and Sexual Assault

Ainscough, C., & Toon, K., (2000), Breaking Free: Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse (2nd Ed), Sheldon Press, ISBN 978-0859698108

Ainscough, C., & Toon, K., (2000), Breaking Free Workbook: Practical Help for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, Sheldon Press, ISBN 978-0859698047

Benedict, Helen (1994), Recovery: How to Survive Sexual Assault for Women, Men, Teenagers, and Their Friends and Family, Columbia University Press, ISBN 0231096755

Browne, M. H., (2007), If the Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing, Adams Media, ISBN 978-1593376437

Chapman, G, (2001), Anger, Dealing With a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way, Moody Publishers

Graber, K., (1992), Ghosts in the Bedroom: Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors, Health Communications, ISBN 978-1558741164

Grubman-Black, S. D., (2002) Broken Boys, Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse, The Blackburn Press, ISBN 1930665628

Lew, M., (2004), Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Childhood Sexual Abuse (2nd Ed), Harper Paperbacks, ISBN 978-0060530266

Kelly R A & Maxted, (2005), The Survivor's Guide: To Recovery from Rape and Sexual Abuse, RoSA, ISBN 0955103703

Mastakis, Aphrodite (2003), The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-by-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault, New Harbinger Publications, ISBN 1572243376

Parkes, P., (1994), Rescuing the Inner Child, Souvenir Press Ltd, ISBN 0285650890

Raine, N. V., (2000), After the Silence: Rape and My Journey Back, Virago Press, ISBN 1860496431

Rothschild, B., (2010), 8 Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery: Take-charge Strategies to Empower Your Healing, W. W. Norton & Co Publishers, ISBN 0393706052

Simon, G. K. (2010), In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People, Parkhurst Brothers Publishers Inc

Resources for Men Abused or Sexually Assaulted

AMSOSA UK (Adult Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse) - formerly Swindon Survivors: 0845 430 9371, www.amsosa.com - National helpline and support group for male survivors (17 and over) of rape and childhood abuse.

Male Rape/Sexual Abuse (MRSA) Support Association: 24 hr helpline 07932 898274, www.communigate.co.uk/lancs/mrsa/ - Help and support to male victims of rape and adult male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Based in Lancashire but nationwide information and referral service. Support groups in both Blackpool and Preston, outreach service, confidential listening and counselling sessions.

The Mankind Initiative: 01823 334244 - www.mankind.org.uk - National telephone helpline providing counselling, support and information to men with relationship issues, and physical, emotional, sexual abuse. (Can also provide treatment for female perpetrators of abuse).

Mpower: 0808 808 4321, www.male-rape.org.uk - Help for men who have been raped or sexually abused.

National Association of Children Abused In Childhood (NAPAC): 0800 085 3330, www.napac.org.uk Organisation supporting survivors of abuse.

Survivors UK: 0845 122 1201, email info@survivorsuk.org, www.survivorsuk.org - National helpline offering information, support and counselling for anyone affected by the sexual assault of men. One to one counselling and support groups for male survivors in the London area.


http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/pdfs/nfntsx-visac-males_e.pdf - this is a Canadian booklet that aims to dispel myths about sexual abuse and tells the reader more about feelings that they might have or are experiencing